I’ve been teaching my 10 year old son the concept of mindfulness: being aware of the moment, being fully engaged in your surroundings and conscious of both your environment and those in it. Eyes open, mind open. Understanding your purpose in this life – why you are, who you are, and what you are. Feeling a sense of wholeness and completeness – between your physical body and your emotional state. Those who are "in the moment" are said to be practicing mindfulness.
My son is smart. Startlingly, breathtakingly smart. I remember having an in-depth conversation with him about quantum physics after he watched an episode of Stargate SG-1 and questioned how the Stargate works – when he was 5 years old. Think Sheldon Cooper from the tv show The Big Bang Theory. Like most who are profoundly gifted, my son shows times where he is completely oblivious to others’ feelings, to his environment, to his habits and his presentation of self. Its not that he doesn’t care – its more that these things have such a low priority in his mind as to be insignificant. I see that he is ready to accept the concept of mindfulness, so I’ve been striving to teach him. I do not want him growing up oblivious to those around him, and not engaged in his environment.
Mindfulness of place
Being aware of your surroundings, and sensitive to changes in environment keep you in touch with your physical world. People often talk about “treading lightly” so as not to be too disruptive. This is a core thought behind mindfulness of place – leaving a place as you left it, without the physical marks you’ve been there. In a public setting, being aware of who is physically in your space sharpens the memory and makes you more aware of your surroundings. My son and I have play this game and I spring it on him without warning: “Close your eyes, and tell me about the people in this room/area/store.” When he is mindful, he knows an elderly woman with a pink sweater is at the end of the aisle. He can tell me there are 3 people in line ahead of us at the bank. He can tell me what the price of the zucchini in the grocery cart is after we’ve left the vegetable area. If you find that you often forget details of your environment - or can't answer a simple mental question like "What color shirt is my secretary / best friend / UPS delivery guy wearing today?" - You may need to develop mindfulness of place.
Mindfulness of person
Having the awareness that what you do, and how you do it affects those around you is a key element to mindfulness of person. Being thoughtful to other’s feelings, emotions, and reactions is mindfulness of person in action. Understanding that you are not the only human being in the Universe, and the sun does not revolve around you. Tossing a stone into a pond doesn’t just create ripples. Those ripples radiate out until they touch something else…a duck floating along is rocked back and forth. A branch in the water is displaced. A leaf on the far shore of the pond laps against the bank. Watch and listen how others react to you. Become more in tune with how others are seeing you - how others are reacting to you.
Mindfulness of person is also being aware of your physical body in space. Ever been accused of being “a bull in a china shop?” Do you brush by furniture because you’ve misjudged how much room you will need to negotiate moving around it? Developing mindfulness of person should be on your to-do list. Take a dance or rhythm class. Get in touch with your physical being.
Mindfulness of purpose
Developing a mission statement for your place in this world is an important step towards awareness of purpose. Going forth without understanding why it is you are doing what you are doing is wasted effort, and lack of forward movement. Mindfulness of purpose is your reason for doing – your reason ( besides your job ) for getting up in the morning and putting one foot in front of the other. It doesn’t have to be formal or written down – but it does have to be something. Think about yourself. What are you doing? Where are you going? Are you working towards "bucket list" goals? What about identifying unhelpful characteristics in your life and striving to eliminate or defuse them?
I’m always fussing at my son “Move with purpose, please!” as he dawdles or moves too slow for my taste. Being aware that we move with a purpose in mind is important, too. Being aware of mindfulness of purpose goes hand in hand with mindfulness of person and place in this instance. Your body moves through space as a means to an end. A runner does not locomote her body for no reason. We have purpose, and meaning. Our actions have significance, as does our awareness of those actions.
Mindfulness of spirit
“I don’t care what you believe…just believe it.” – Shepherd Book, Serenity
Mindfulness of spirit is a celebration in belief. It is recognizing there are forces greater than yourself at play in the Universe. Some call it Religion. Some call it Karma. Some call it God. Whatever name you apply to your belief – embrace it and work towards growing closer to it. Work towards understanding and being comfortable with your beliefs. Unsure? Lapsed? Questioning? Arrange to meet with a priest / rabbi / minister / <insert other religious leader here>. Discuss your concerns. They are there to help you sort out your feelings. Being mindful of spirit is not allowing the faith to run out of the cup to the point there is no more left in the cup.
Perhaps you are agnostic – that’s ok – to each his own…but what then? Mindfulness of spirit is still for you. Be invigorated by your inner need to help others. Volunteer your time. Work with the homeless. Teach a gun safety course. Whatever it is that betters your community – betters yourself…do it. Work towards expanding your horizons. Learn to play an instrument, and do it well. Learn a craft. Learn a foreign language. Mindfulness of spirit is also expressed when we work to better ourselves simply to further ourselves along the path.
For most people, mindfulness in all its forms is a learned skill. Very few of us are born mindful. Identify the area(s) where you recognize you could be doing better. Formulate a plan whereby you work on achieving goals you set in this area. Mentor under someone who has the skill set you desire. Don't be afraid to place yourself in the role of student. We're all here to make ourselves better than we were. Mindfulness can help us achieve our goals, and our goals will help us achieve mindfulness.
For most people, mindfulness in all its forms is a learned skill. Very few of us are born mindful. Identify the area(s) where you recognize you could be doing better. Formulate a plan whereby you work on achieving goals you set in this area. Mentor under someone who has the skill set you desire. Don't be afraid to place yourself in the role of student. We're all here to make ourselves better than we were. Mindfulness can help us achieve our goals, and our goals will help us achieve mindfulness.



















































